When I am talking to my girls, I often hope that I'm saying the right things. The things they will remember, the things that will make them stronger, the things that make them feel not alone...and if I say them enough be ingrained into their little brains for life. Even if they don't realize it . There is still a bunch of things that I can hear my mom saying in my head all the time so I figure it must work :)
1. You are the best you that ever was. God doesn't make mistakes.
2. You can be anything you want. I mean it , anything. (OK maybe there are a few nos in there but that's another post)
3. You can tell me anything. I won't judge you or yell at you. Just be honest with me.
4. You can ask me anything. I'll tell you the truth ( to a point)
5. Dress how you want, draw what you want, read what you want, be who you were meant to be. Not somebody else. Don't change for anyone.
6. You is smart. You is good. You is important.( yes, I know...it's from " The Help" but it's still good to tell them)
7. Wait to kiss the boys, it will be worth it. They don't kiss good for a long time.
8. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean you have to do anything you don't want to.
9. I'm always on your side ( unless you are hurting yourself then I will stop you)
10. You will have a lot of friends in your life. Some will stay. Some will go. And some might even come back. They all don't have to last forever but you hope they do.
11. Only be with a guy that loves you even when things aren't perfect because life never is.
12. Watch how anyone treats their pets, that's how they'll treat you.
13. You can be nice but don't let people take advantage of you. Stand up for yourself.
14. You two(k&s) should always look out for each other. She will be your best friend some day.
15. I'll always love you no matter what. Even if I'm mad at you, I still love you.And even if you are mad at me, I'll still love you.
What bits of wisdom are you trying to ingrain into your kids' heads?
Monday
What is the Gunny Sack -Making the world Cuter -Debbie Doo -DIY Show Off
DIY Shop - Lines Across My Face -I should be mopping the Floor
Great Fun 4 Kids
Tuesday
How to Nest For Less - Tip Junkie - My Uncommon Slice of Suburbia -The Kurtz Corner
Sugar Bee - Romance On A Dime - Debbie Does Creations - Funky Polka Dot Giraffe
The Winthrop Chronicles
Wednesday
Thrifty Home - Someday Crafts - Sew Much Ado
- Junk in Their Trunk - Southern Lovely -SNAP
Thursday
Beyond the Picket Fence - Somewhat Simple - Live Laugh Rowe
Loving this Crazy Life - The Shabby Cottage
The Taylor House- House of Hepworths
Two In Diapers-Mommy Brain Mixer
Friday
Naptime Crafters - Stay At Home Nation
Young and Crafty - My Turn(ForUs)
Delicate Construction
Serenity Now
Here Comes the Sun
Saturday
Six Sister's Stuff
Cheerios and Lattes
Natasha in Oz -Say G'Day
so very sweet!! Thanks for linking this to the Mommy Brain Mixer!!
ReplyDeleteLoved your post so much, I featured it again: http://momofbigalittlea.blogspot.com/2012/08/what-ive-been-reading-this-week-7-mommy.html
DeleteThank you so much. That is so awesome to be the company of such other great blogs and posts.
DeleteHi Emily, I just wanted to let you know that I featured your post in 'The best of my weekly reading series for 2012: http://www.bigaandlittlea.com/2012/12/the-best-of-the-weekly-reading-series.html
DeleteThis is such great advice. I need to pass this on tommy two nieces.
ReplyDeleteThanks. Please do.
DeleteHere's one - more of an un-said message..."you are NOT bothering me!" I never want my kids to feel that they're nuisances to me. (Except when they are. haha, just kidding. sort of. no, really.) Anyway, I just never want them to feel that I have more important things to do than to listen to/play with them. This is a hard one though! I just don't want to have any regrets once they grow up.
ReplyDeleteOh great, now I'm gonna cry!!! ;)
Glad I found your blog today - at some linky party. Hi, I'm Rachel! :)
That's a good one, Rachel. And I agree with your, uh, statement after. hee hee. And please don;t cry, then I'll cry and we'll just all kinda of mom hormones together.
DeleteThat's a very sweet list! I don't have any kids yet, but one thing I remember my parents always saying to us was "Everything we do is because we love you." And also, "Have you done your homework yet?" Ha ha. :-)
ReplyDeleteFound you through Delicate Construction!
Yep, I think I got those from my parents too. And the good" If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" I'm sure you'll have your very own list for your kids someday.
DeleteGreat things to remember to tell them! I tell my girls a lot of these things as well. Let's hope they remember them.
ReplyDeleteI sure hope they do too. And not the dumb things they hear on tv or magazines.
DeleteI love your list!! I laughed out loud with #7!
ReplyDeleteIt's true though, am I right ? Or did I just have some really bad kissing boyfriends?
DeleteOops! I realized in a previous comment I was talking about Cassie's desk, it is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteBut as I also said, I just found your blog and really like it! I also LOVE that you are a native St. Louisan, YAY!, so am I. I was raised there and even though I've lived in Columbia, MO for many years, I still call St. Louis home and I ALWAYS will.
I SO enjoyed this post today. I have a 3 year old granddaughter, Isabelle, (who lives in St. Louis), and I thought these loving and heartfelt thoughts would be something my daughter-in-law would appreciate. So, I sent the link to her to read. Thank you for sharing your beautiful and loving wisdom. GO CARDINALS!
Thanks, Judy. I love Saint Louis. And once a St. Louisian always a St. Louisian. And thanks for passing it along.
DeleteThose were some really nice words of wisdom. I haven't given any to my daughter yet, but now I'm inspired to!
ReplyDeleteI came in from the Mommy Brain Mixer! Have a great weekend!
~ Divoo ((http://thechroniclesofsan.blogspot.com)
It's never to early to start. They are always listening to us so I figured I may as well start saying the good stuff now.
DeleteBeautiful post and blog. Found you via Cheerios and Lattes. #6 always makes me tear up. ;) Happy to be a new follower!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Holli. I'm following you back and yes, that quote does it to me too.
DeleteI'm so glad that I'm following you! What a sweet post, I really enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing on the delicate construction link party!
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Awww..thanks, Katie. I just figured all of us mom out there should be the ones saying the good stuff to our kids when there is so much ( like you said ) backstabbing that's going on.
DeleteWonderful. Thank you for sharing. Some days I look at my daughter and I find myself intimated by the sheer responsibility of her...
ReplyDeleteAmen to that. It's so overwhelming sometimes and when i think how my parents didn't even have to deal with the internet and smart phones. Ugh. Not going to be all fun.
DeleteAw, Emily, I love these so much!! So glad you linked up to the Mixer, friend. I hope to see you again on Thursday!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Cassie. I'll be there for some more Mommy Brain fun!
DeleteLove this! Thanks for sharing last week on Saturday Show & Tell on Cheerios and Lattes.com. You are a featured favorite this week! Thanks again for sharing your great ideas! We look forward to more great ideas!
ReplyDeleteMackenzie :)
Thank you so much, Mackenzie. It means so much to me.
Deletereally awesome list. Great wisdom there mommy!
ReplyDelete(I especially love the "wait to kiss the boys" one - "cos they won't kiss good for a long time" - hahaha
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But it's true, right? They really don;t know what they are doing and neither do we.
DeleteI am loving this. I so hope I installed some of these values with my kids:) Number 7 made me giggle, so true, so very true. I am pinning this and sharing on Facebook just because we all need to think about this. You covered so much:)Well done!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Evelyn! I know I may not do it every day but I try to make it go to the front of my brain.
DeleteThese are great things to say to your daughters. I think that now that you wrote this list up, you will be even more likely to say these even more. Thanks for linking up at Take it on Tuesday!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Betsy. I kinda hope it works like that. I should hang it up on my mirror too so I see it every morning.
DeleteAww! That is so cool that you wrote all these things down. I want to be the type of mom that my kids can depend on, talk to about anything, and come to with any problems, too. Keep it up, and I'm sure your girls and you will always be close. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Becca. I really hope that is does keep me mindful of all of the things I want to say , always.
DeleteLoved the list, will surely pick most of these and tell my daughter :)
ReplyDeleteThanks! I hope I remember to tell them too :)
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